We All Need Friends
Digital devices seem to be the fast food of human interaction. Filling, satisfying, and easy to get, it meets our need for food. At the same time, a diet of ONLY fast food is fatal, as our bodies become malnourished. In a similar fashion, devices and the internet can connect us to other humans, on social media, while gaming, or online communities, giving the feeling that an abundance of social interaction is just a click away at all times. As our bodies suffer from too many Big Macs, our minds and spirits suffer from interacting with an electronic device as a replacement for relationships.
In-person friendships are an important aspect of children and teens' social and emotional development. These relationships provide a sense of belonging, support, and validation, which are essential for building self-esteem and confidence. While online connections have become more prevalent in recent years, research shows that face-to-face interactions are crucial for children's and teens' well-being.
Social skills development is one of the significant benefits of in-person friendships. Children and teens learn how to communicate effectively, express their emotions, and resolve conflicts in a safe and supportive environment. These skills are necessary for building healthy relationships, both in the present and the future. As adults, we understand that texting and online conversations, can embolden us to say things we might not have the confidence to say to someone face to face. We are DIFFERENT on line. Sadly, avoiding interacting with others, although more comfortable in the moment, robs us of a chance to become a bit more confident and connected. For children and teens, that comfort has a more serious consequence, diminishing their ability to interact with others and form the human connections
we need to be healthy and happy.
According to Andrea Bonior, a licensed clinical psychologist, "Interpersonal relationships teach us how to work with others, how to cooperate, and how to solve problems." This is why in-person friendships are crucial for children's and teens' social and emotional growth.
In addition to social skills, in-person friendships also have a positive impact on mental health. The support and validation provided by close friends can buffer the effects of stress and anxiety. According to a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, "Supportive friendships help people to manage life stressors, leading to less psychological distress." Close friendships can provide a sense of security and comfort that is not easily replicated online.
While online connections can provide some benefits, they do not replace the value of in-person friendships. According to Dr. Karen Ruskin, a licensed marriage and family therapist, "Online connections can be superficial and lack the depth of face-to-face relationships." In-person friendships provide opportunities for physical touch, eye contact, and other nonverbal cues that are crucial for building trust and intimacy.
In person friendships are essential for children and teens' social and emotional development. These relationships provide opportunities for social skills development and can have a positive impact on mental health. While online connections have their benefits, they do not replace the value of face-to-face interactions. As parents, caregivers, and educators, it is important to encourage and facilitate in-person friendships for children and teens to support their growth and well-being.